Regardless of whether you're gay or straight (or undecided) - the
hot topics discussed within these pages are sure to be
provocative!
Who hasn't wondered what's going on? Even the Church leaders are
confused and the laity divided. Is sex all there is? Find out
what life's all about - read on!
Dedicated to my understanding mother who said: "No matter who you
are or what you do, you're still my son and I love you."
Contents
Chapter One
To Be or Not to Be
Chapter Two
All That Glitters Isn't Gold
Chapter Three
Once Gay Always Gay?
Chapter Four
Of Vice and Men
Chapter Five
A Time for Healing
Chapter One
TO BE OR NOT TO BE...
Homosexuality.... Is it a matter of choice? Are some born that
way? And if so, then how could God condemn it? Or does He? Does
it make a difference? Who offered it as an "alternative
lifestyle?" Are same-sex drives due to conditioning? Are gays and
lesbians a quirk of nature? Something queer to jeer? Would it
have been better to have never been born?
All of these questions and more are only a few of the many that
race through people's minds; causing controversy, heated
arguments and emotional wounds, as words fly back and forth
carelessly.
It could be safe to say that homosexuality is the result of many
factors. But who's to blame? Must we even lay a guilt-trap at
anyone's door? Maybe mother, then again there's the father who
didn't figure for too much. Society? Genes? The stars? Most
people know their sexual orientation by their teens. They don't
just suddenly discover they're "straight" and "come out" about
it. Let's get real.
Who's to accept the responsibility for our actions? Some have
felt "gay" ever since they were very young and therefore imagine
that they were born gay. Others seem to pick up, adopt or
assimilate homosexual tendencies through association. They must
have already had an inclination towards it. It rubbed off on
them. Then there are those who were bored and needed a change.
They wanted to try it and see if they liked it. Sometimes, due to
"force" of circumstances, men in prison, boy's homes and/or
monasteries, might resort to homosexual activities. Later, as
soon as possible, some of them revert to heterosexual ways, while
others continue to enjoy the "best of both world" as a bisexual.
Are "bestiality is best" fans born that way? Or are incestuous
relationships something innate? Do we have a predisposition
chemically for incest? Are we set up for such a fall from birth?
Would that justify or excuse us? Is promiscuity merely a part of
man's "animal instincts?" Is the challenge of the chase a
primeval hang-over from the "days of the hunt?"
Actually, ALL of the above are simply DISTRACTIONS! It's not a
question of who or what we're most comfortable with, prefer, like
or are attracted to; those are only attempts to sidestep the real
issue!
God isn't only the Creator, but the Sustainer of the entire
universe. As such, his Majesty's Government - headquartered in
the highest heaven - has issued (at Mt. Sinai) various health
rules and regulations (Malachi 4:4). The Creator-King has
predetermined, in His infinite wisdom, which "food and drugs"
are safe and sound for our consumption.
If we keep uppermost in mind the reason for our mortal existence,
the SUPREME PURPOSE for our human-being; to establish contact
with our Superior-Being and develop a relationship with Him -
then we'll know and understand that everything God does is for
our benefit. God wants to help us, not hinder us. He enjoys
encouraging us to attain our goals and fulfill our potential (Lk.
12:31-32). Father does know what's best: what He has in store for
us is beyond our wildest dreams (Ephes. 3:20; 1 Cor. 2:9)!
The High Cost of Living
Whoever chooses to be a card-carrying member of the homosexual
community is entitled to all of it's privileges and persecutions;
but you should first COUNT THE COST to see if it's too high of a
price for you to pay, like Christians are told to do (Lk. 14:28).
If anyone decides to engage in illicit sex or become entangled in
"foreign affairs," they're living a lie if they think that God
could possibly approve of their improper conduct, and they're
compounding their problems if they lead others astray by attempts
to endorse such flagrant sin (Rom. 1:32). Do what you want, but
don't misrepresent God and His clear-cut Biblical teachings!
Don't try and put words in His mouth or censor what He's actually
said (Rev. 22:18-19).
Yes, GOD IS LOVE! That's why He hates certain practices with a
passion. He frowns upon a dishonest life of stealing, an
unfaithful habit of "cheating" on our spouse, a disrespectful
attitude towards our parents or persons in authority, religious
holidays that are hollow and don't hallow His name, senseless
killings and character assassination, idolatrous distractions
that come between God and us, an endless trivial pursuit and
preoccupation with ourselves and others, instead of putting God
first!
God loves us and wants us to love Him too, but He considers love
more than a four-letter word: love is an attitude exemplified by
actions, words that are backed up with deeds (Jas. 2:26). That's
why Jesus said that if we really loved Him, we'd show it and not
just say it (Jn. 14:15).
Safe-Sex
Since God is love, and Father knows best, He wants us to practice
safe-sex. A safe-sex that's good and wholesome, clean and pure,
and only available within a marriage where both partners keep
their vows and honor their commitments (Heb. 13:4).
Sexual intimacy, cuddling and coitus, belongs in the bedroom (of
the Biblically-bonded), and it's to involve the union of both
minds and bodies (Gen. 2:24). Married couples are challenged to
become compatible in every sense of the word. A marriage
certificate doesn't have to be "just a piece of paper" or become
another broken record! God does recognize the fact that marriage
isn't for everyone (Mat. 19:11), but expresses His will that
singles remain celibate (1 Thes. 4:3).
God only promises to bless those foods (or relationships) that
are sanctioned by His Word (1 Tim. 4:4-5). He's not unsure of
Himself or His ways, He's not fickle or foolish, and His Word is
reliable, dependable, and not subject to change. This hasn't
caused the scriptures to be too popular at times, but they refuse
to succumb to peer pressure and remain true to themselves.
They're not what needs to change anyway. We do! God hasn't
lowered His moral standards or compromised with His food laws,
but offers to help raise us to His God-Plane.
Christ can cleanse us of our unclean lives (Acts 10:15, 28),
because God hasn't called us to remain in Egypt but to head for
the Promised Land. Don't just stand there, get a move on it! And
leave your excess baggage (sin) behind.
Kosher Food
Although God created us with a hunger drive, an appetite, He
doesn't want us to become gluttonous pigs. Neither does He want
us to act like horny dogs (1 Cor. 6:13). God's also shown us that
just because various food items have been mislabeled
"delicacies," we don't have to shove them into our mouths (Lev.
11). We're expected to be mature, not act childish.
God warns us to guard the doors of our mind, don't set ourselves
up for a fall, and discern what we digest (Ephes. 4:27; Heb.
5:14). We're instructed to scrutinize our food for thought and
remember "we are what we eat" and "we become what we think"
(Prov. 23:7). God doesn't only want us to watch what we put into
our mouths, but what we allow into our minds (Philip. 4:8). For a
free list of "government approved" food for thought; what's clean
and unclean, pure and impure, kosher and non-kosher - check out
Ga. 5:19-23; Ephes. 5:11 and Philip. 1:11.
We're not supposed to remain raw material. God's given us a brain
to become refined and keep our baser "instincts" in line (2 Pet.
2:12). The Holy Spirit offers us the help we need to accomplish
this job (Jn. 1:12). We should refuse to be reduced to an animal
level, simply sensual creatures, choosing a higher standard of
living instead. The "if it feels good do it" and "if it looks
good eat it" lack of mentality ought to be regarded as an insult
to those striving for God's higher intelligence.
Regardless of why you're gay, bisexual or "trysexual" (you'll try
anything once), whether or not you've had any choice in the
matter - you do have a choice to exercise proper self-control.
YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE A SLAVE TO YOUR SENSES (Jn. 8:34), or allow
sexual temptations to dictate mindless reactions (Gen. 19:4-11).
You're not forced to act upon every thought that enters your
mind. You can resist suggestions and reject impulses (2 Cor.
10:5). Every fleeting thought, random idea or stray notion
doesn't have to take root and grow if you don't give it fertile
ground (Jas. 1:13-15). You can consider its source and nip it in
the bud. A "NO TRESPASSING!" frame of mind can be developed to
defend you against intruders. Protection is possible. You can say
NO! You can curb your appetite! YOU CAN CHANGE!
Chapter Two
ALL THAT GLITTERS
ISN'T GOLD
The gay lifestyle. Is it so happy-go-lucky? Something so sweet
and wonderful we'd "wish you were here?" Or is it actually
something you wouldn't wish upon your worst enemy? Is it simply a
matter of being well-adjusted? Or resigned? What's so gay about
it all anyway? Who ever dreamed up that label? What about truth
in advertising? Some want their money back. Were they sold a
line?
Is homosexuality a victimless crime? What about their minds?
Aren't they victimized? When they refuse to even "think straight"
- aren't they denying themselves the opportunity to change? After
all, isn't the brain the biggest sex organ?
God has provided for proper sexual satisfaction in marriage; but
there's always that allure of the unknown, the forbidden zone. It
arouses our curiosity, attempts to lower our resistance, and
seduces our weakened will. In such a state, intoxicated with
lust, we could engage in a deadly liaison and only discover later
what a fatal attraction it really was (Prov. 5:11). "You play,
you pay" (Prov. 6:27). Don't let a one-night stand be your fall.
But isn't that the main purpose for going out to the bars? And if
there's any such thing as gay community centers, they'd have to
be THE BARS! They're the familiar haunts, pick-up joints, and
popular retreats; everything from your local dive to those
pulsating places that are practically cities under a roof -
something for everyone.
The bars - hallowed be their names - are a place to go when
you're bored, a welcoming-wagon for the new kids on the meat
block, and somewhere to let your hair down and unwind, enjoying
the company of your substitute family. The gay lifestyle
definitely revolves around these dark dens of iniquity.
Such a polluted environment naturally encourages drug and alcohol
abuse ("communion"), sexual abuse in a casual way with careless
partners ("confirmation"), and verbal abuse (Prov. 4:24) in an
overflow of raunchy talk ("fellowship") and gossip - jes' dishin'
the dirt....
"Out" On the Town
Your first experience "out" on the town (with the boys) could be
exhilarating - or bizarre! You might see wonderful men dressed to
kill, or hunks in tank tops and T shirts; enter a wet jock-strap
contest or watch gyrating male strippers, or view the
make-believe world of make-up queens trying to steal the show, a
different person on stage.... Then there's the games people play,
the vicious backbiting and hair-pulling of the young and
breastless, or the S & M (stand & modeling) crowd who love
themselves and lots of mirrors. Quite a carnival atmosphere.
But it kind of puts a damper on your evening's fun when you go
into bars and find yourself greeted by pornographic posters
(trying to get across the point about "safe-sex"), or see a
fishbowl or platter filled with assorted colors of "life-savers"
(condoms); or to order yourself a strong drink and notice AIDS
donation jars staring you down: L'Chaim suddenly becomes more
personal. And then there's the endless ads in all the gay mags
about HIV testing, "understanding doctors" who'll screen you in
private, surgically remove your hemorrhoids, laser your anal
warts, counsel you about your problems, ad nauseum.
Makes you eager to jump in bed, eh? Or run scared! But welcome to
the real world - the good, the bad, and the ugly. But jump from
bed to bed until we all drop dead? Is that what life's all about?
Isn't it stupid to keep playing this deadly game (of Russian
roulette) until someone doesn't shoot blanks? DEATHBED takes on a
whole new meaning.
The next time you want to get "laid" - hope that it's not in a
grave! So what if you can trick with every Tom, Dick, and Harry
if you become just another name on the AIDS quilt (a
"grave-blanket"). Don't sell yourself short (Jn. 8:36; Heb.
12:16).
Eventually, the wear and tear, the abuse of your mind and body,
is going to take its expensive toll. All of the cheap,
mechanical, meaningless, sexploitation has got to affect you. How
could you not become desensitized?
If you deviate from the strait and narrow, how can you not get
lost? If you forget or pervert the original purpose of sex, how
can you escape confusion? You'll condemn yourself to wander in
your sexual bewilderment, experimenting with everything since
"anything goes."
Look around you the next time you go out (if you haven't had
enough of that tired crowd and empty scene). From drag-queens to
muscle men, welfare alcoholics to executives on cocaine; the
homosexual world is as diverse and perverse as the "straight"
world. Some men acting like women, some women acting like men;
worlds in collision, an identity crisis, suicidal tendencies -
but have another drink, what are friends for?
Are "gay" people really so happy? Or just putting on a front?
Beneath the smiling faces, love and laughter, you'll too often
find broken hearts and lost dreams. And although the clubs are
usually full, there are too many empty individuals who are lonely
and aching inside; but the show must go on, drinking and dancing,
until another burnt-out dawn....
One-Night Stands
And what are one-night stands, really? Other than quick sex with
"no strings attached," it's a cheap counterfeit of what we're
actually looking for: true love, undivided attention, special
affection, and sincere compliments. We're starved for love and
yet dying from "fast-food." What we're really hungry for is some
"good ol' home-cookin'!" But once you've lost your looks (if you
ever had any), you won't have to worry about any more "strangers
in the night" - unless you're able and willing to pay them for
their time and trouble.
The bar-scene brazenly worships at the altar of youth, and
devotes itself to the beauty that's only skin-deep. Everyone else
is thrown on the human heap, scrapped and abandoned. Of course,
there's some "hope" for these discarded lives: they can join the
lonely hearts club of dashed hopes and lowered standards. The
only requirement is to be desperate and dateless. If I've
overstated this case, it's only to emphasize the point that sex
sells - and without your youth and/or looks you're flat broke.
It's twisted values, but reflective of our troubled times.
Happy and in Love?
Many gays will protest that God is a "God of love," and they
think that as long as we're happy and in love - how could
something so right be so wrong? They feel God couldn't condemn
such relationships and wonder how anyone could think He would.
But mortal thoughts and opinions aside (Prov. 14:12; Isa. 55:8),
if there is a Creator God, and if the Bible is His Instruction
Manual for mankind, we'd better base our beliefs solely on what's
revealed within its pages. Faith must have a foundation (Rom.
10:17).
If the homosexual argument that "as long as we're happy and in
love" is valid, couldn't the same defense be made to sanction
incestuous relationships? Or premarital experiences or adulterous
affairs? Do we always know what's best for us? Couldn't we be
like grown-up teenagers who think they know everything, when in
reality they don't?
Hasn't it been said, and true at times, that "love is blind?" Is
it just a matter of feeling happy? Can't feelings fool us
sometimes? Isn't that why family and friends have cautioned us to
"keep your head above your heart?" Is all love proper? Are all
affections good and healthy? What about being "lovesick?"
Shouldn't there be some form of standards to judge by or criteria
for character? Isn't there any game plan? Hasn't love too often
been confused with lust (2 Sam. 13:15)?
Satan is "love!"
If we look into the Bible (not Freud, the latest sexual survey,
or some kinky report), we'll find that it does condemn: the love
of vanity (Ps. 4:2), of simplicity (Prov. 1:22), of excessive
sleep (Prov. 20:13), of religious lies (2 Thes. 2:10), illicit
sex, improper lovers, and "foreign affairs" (Ezek. 23:11, 17, 22;
16:37), of evil (Micah 3:2), drunkenness (Hos. 3:1),
self-righteousness (Mat. 6:5; 23:6), of money (1 Tim. 6:10), this
present world system and its ways (1 Jn. 2:15), spiritual
darkness (Jn. 3:19), the kick-back of wrongdoing (2 Pet. 2:15),
of ourselves in an unhealthy way and of cheap thrills (2
Tim.3:2,4), violence (Ps. 11:5), strife (Prov. 17:19), and even
having a greater love for family or friends than for God (Mat.
10:37).
Therefore, the Bible clearly reveals that various forms of love
and feelings are wrong, that certain human relationships are
forbidden and condemned (Lev. 18), and that true love must be
consistent with God's character and commandments (1 Jn. 5:3). Any
other "love" isn't from God, but from Satan who is (such) "love!"
He's the clever counterfeit; the snake who confuses the issues
and twists the truth.
It's precisely because God is Love (1 Jn. 4:8) that He wants to
protect us from those Canaanite customs, perverted practices, and
harmful ways that would ultimately undermine our land and lives
(Lev. 18:30).
Still, some would angrily question how anyone could allow some
old-fashioned Book to dictate their lives; after all, it's
thousands of years old! But who would argue that the time-honored
commandments against murder, or prohibition that protects private
property or safeguards marriage and minds, or upholds honesty and
virtue and being content are outdated? They're tried, tested, and
true. Naturally, it's easier to accept something as long as it
doesn't hit home or step on our toes. It's still typical, "A man
(or woman) convinced against his will is of the same opinion
still." Don't waste your time confusing them with the facts (Mat.
7:6; 15:14).
This booklet's intention is to make the plain truth about homosexuality known and available.
It's to assist those who really want to consider what the Good
Book has to say. Obviously, this is a very sensitive subject. If
someone does become convinced or converted to the truth - great!
More power to them. But if others choose to continue in their
contrary lifestyles, dying for sex rather than living for God and
His Kingdom - that's their choice. God gives us all the
prerogative to do as we please, but He strongly recommends and
encourages us to "choose life" (Deut. 30:10); an even more
appropriate message considering the high risk of AIDS. It's so
difficult to TRANSCEND HUMAN RELATIONSHIPS - but we must, if and
whenever it's necessary (Mk. 10:28-30).
Living Responsible Lives
Are the "Gay 90's" fulfilling prophecy? The "last days" are
supposed to be reminiscent of earlier times, "as it was in the
days of Noah," and "as it was in the days of Lot." How was it in
days of yore? Just like today. Apparently, ignoring the dire need
to make drastic changes in their lives, they conducted "business
as usual" and fiddled about or got carried away with less
important things (Deut. 32:47; Mk. 4:19). It's recorded that they
ate and drank, got married, and went to work everyday - until
they were consumed by their burning desires and swept away by
their sins (Lk. 17:26-30).
What's wrong with eating and drinking or working? We might very
well wonder. Didn't God create us with an appetite and a thirst,
as well as a need for physical exertion? Yes, but certain tastes,
desires and relationships should be nipped in the bud; not
allowed to grow or develop or take root (Jas. 1:14-15)! Many
things are good of and by themselves, and not wrong, but God's
imposed conditions, restraints and guidelines for us to live by.
We're meant to enjoy those foods that God has blessed and offered
us (Lev. 20:25; 1 Tim. 4:5), and even have an occasional drink,
if we want. The Bible condemns gluttony, not eating; drunkenness,
not drinking; greed, not need. It's what we do with what we're
given. And we are instructed to work and be productive, but we're
also commanded to remember the Sabbath (seventh day) to keep it holy. It's
counterproductive to become too busy earning a living, that we
neglect learning how to live (2 Pet. 3:18)!
Although we're at liberty to do almost anything, within reason
(Gen. 2:16-17), we're to remember that we're held responsible for
how we handle ourselves and manage our new-found freedoms (Ga.
5:13). We're not to abuse our privileges (1 Cor. 8:9), but be
careful not to get caught up in things that could too easily get
out of control (2 Pet. 2:20). A night of good, clean fun can
quickly degenerate into an atmosphere of "just like the old
times." We're entitled to time-out with the boys (or girls), just
don't let your diversion become an obsession (1 Cor. 6:12) - as
my mother once warned me!
Keep Your Head Above Your Heart!
Is it - as some would charge - being cold and cruel, even
inhuman, to be in control of your mind and emotions? Isn't it
rather mature to exercise proper self-control, sick and tired of
giving in to compulsion? Isn't it judicious to carefully
cross-examine every thought, thereby destroying the defense of
our death sentence, commuting it in Christ (2 Cor. 1:9; 10:4-5; 1
Cor. 11:31)?
Doing what just comes natural or seems normal might excite
Nietzsche; but it's not good enough for God. God wants us - mere
mortals made out of matter - to come to resemble, think and act
like Him. "Like Father, like Son." Why? Is God on some big
ego-trip and wants a bunch of clones to come along for the
joy-ride? No, but because it's the only way that'll work. He
ought to know the secret for living happily ever after.
Mankind, after all, was created in the image of the Godkind, and
shares the awesome potential to become composed of God's Spirit -
after we've developed His characteristics (1 Cor. 15:53). God's
eager to award us all the Diploma of Divinity after we've
finished the course of conversion (2 Cor. 3:18). Therefore,
instead of just doing what comes natural - we're to do the
supernatural! We're to turn the other cheek instead of busting
their jaw; forgive rather than fume; pray for our enemies rather
than swear revenge. We're continually called to be different - in
contrast, not conformity, to this world (Rom. 8:29). Get the
point?
Tough-Love
There is a time and a place for "tough-love." We're not to show
the "mercy of fools" for welfare frauds or lazy bums (2 Thes.
3:10), or have compassion on cold-blooded murderers or hardened
criminals, despite their many appeals (1 Sam. 15:32-33; Rom.
13:4).
We shouldn't refuse to use corporal punishment (Prov. 13:24). It
might hurt for awhile, but hopefully the lesson (that actions
have consequences) will last a lifetime (Prov. 19:18; 23:13;
29:15). It could keep them out of worse trouble later (Ecc.8:11).
We're also not to allow our emotions for loved ones to lead us to
hell (Deut. 7:3-4; 13:6-9), or wrong relationships to get in our
way. Despite the grief of saying goodbye, and the pain of tearful
separation (2 Sam. 3:14-16; Ezra 10:3), you've got to do what
you've got to do. Why make it any more difficult? Don't
procrastinate and prolong your misery. Get it over with and get
on with your life! We don't have time to waste in no-win
situations (Ephes. 5:16).
We shouldn't try and be more understanding and tolerant than God,
but refuse to even associate with a Church member who's living in
sin without any apology or shame (1 Cor. 5:1-2, 9-13). And we
should NEVER entertain any notions about ordaining such people!
Of course, we shouldn't cop a self-righteous attitude (Ga. 6:1),
but realize the prayerful purpose is to help restore everyone to
their senses (knowing that ongoing sin results in an eternal
separation).
If and whenever such a person "comes to" (Lk. 15:17, 20), he's to
be welcomed back with wide-open arms (2 Cor. 2:6-8). A little
love can go a long way, and encourage us to do even better -
rather than give up. But sometimes the situation calls for
"shock-treatment" (tough-love), as well as private counseling.
"Different strokes for different folks," so to speak (Lk.
12:47-48).
The moral of this story? Don't get blinded by the light: the
glitter of "love," the hot-flash of emotion, and the gleam of
relationships (2 Cor. 11:14). The going price for fool's gold is
too high to pay. Walk away. It's not worth it.
Chapter Three
ONCE GAY
ALWAYS GAY?
If we accept the Bible as the literal Word of God, and believe
that God says what He means and means what He says, then we can't
escape the fact that God expressly forbids any premarital or
extramarital sex. The Bible doesn't fool around, it gets straight
to the point. The Hebrew God isn't shy. He's also not ashamed of
the anatomy He's equipped humans with. He pulls no punches and
doesn't allow anyone to pervert His plans.
Within the Instruction Manual that God gave to Israel (to give to
the world), were explicit blueprints for building successful
relationships between both God and man. That scriptural
foundation assures us of strong and stable bonds, blessed by God
(Ps. 127:1). Anything that contradicts God's building codes
undermines and condemns itself.
The Bible bluntly states: 1) There's no room in its quarters for
"gay rights." Homosexuality isn't within the bounds of acceptable
behavior. It's practice isn't permissible within the Christian
Camp and will quickly find itself dumped outside of the City
limits (Rev. 22:15). Anyone who dares to defy this ban
automatically excludes himself from society at large and brings
the death penalty upon himself (Gen. 2:17). We're not supposed to
tolerate any deviation, whatsoever, from the "strait and narrow"
path of our God.
2) Cross-dressing, transvestism, is also out of the question
(Deut. 22:5). God doesn't want any "half-breeds" to promote their
hybrid ideas that don't mix too well with God's Word (Lev.
19:19). There's no ifs, ands, or buts about it - no quack
psychological explanations or accepted justifications: it's not
allowed! Everything's to be black and white, right or wrong, male
or female; there's no sense in blurring distinctions or causing
unnecessary confusion (Ezek. 22:26).
3) Gay prostitutes shouldn't even attempt to walk the streets,
because they'll find out the hard way that it's a dead end (Deut.
23:17-18).
God wants to spare us all and safeguard our homes and mind. He
doesn't want us to go past the point of no-return! Once you break
down one moral barrier it's easier to break down another. Once
the floodgates of hell are opened, everyone's swept away and
sexual anarchy reigns!
The barometer of a nation's fall from grace and descent into
depravity - just before national captivity and deportation - is
whenever homosexuality begins to lose its purposeful stigma (Rom.
1:28). That and every other Biblically-attached stigma is to help
keep us in line, remind us of what we're doing, and force us to
pay the fine. Instead of attacking the doctor's diagnosis, we
should concentrate on improving our condition!
We're free to ignore or reject the scripture's counsel against
homosexual activities, but we shouldn't pretend that the Bible's
silent on the subject. If someone continues to smoke even after
they've read the Surgeon General's warnings against it, so be it.
But they shouldn't deny that they've voluntarily increased their
risks of contracting a variety of diseases.
Reason for Living
Our reason for living shouldn't be sex - but to develop a proper
relationship with God! Life is meant to be far more meaningful
that momentary physical pleasures. When Jesus said that "man
shouldn't live by bread alone," He revealed there's another
dimension - the spiritual - that completes us and transcends the
mundane. Our daily request for "bread" (in the Lord's prayer
sample) isn't only a humble petition to meet all our physical
needs, but that we'll also be spiritually sustained (Jn. 6:35).
The supreme purpose in our respective lives should be to know and
become more like out Father in Heaven (Mat. 5:48). Especially
when you consider God created each kind after its kind, and then
He made mankind after the Godkind! We're offered the opportunity
to increasingly bear the divine image and more closely resemble
Him (in characteristics) daily. We're urged to live compatible
with His glorious Kingdom.
If we want to be on God's wavelength, come up to His level, and
live in peace and harmony (with the law and order of His
universe) - we need to realize and accept that certain "trees,
food, and fruits" aren't kosher, but are off-limits, taboo! We
need to avoid those pitfalls and steer clear of such danger-zones
if we're to survive this unique journey (Prov. 4:15). We don't
want to become another casualty along the way (Prov. 15:10).
God hasn't singled out the gays for any special treatment - or
persecution! He's not homophobic, racist, or sexist: God is Love.
And because God loves us all, He has high hopes and dreams for
us. That's why God's graciously given us some guidelines and
helpful instructions for happy, healthy, and wholesome living:
the Tree of Life (1 Jn. 5:3). These voluntary restrictions (you
are a free moral-agent) are intended to enhance our lives and
enable us to truly enjoy our experiences as humans (Jn. 10:10;
Deut. 4:40). They gently regulate our food, thoughts, worship,
behavior, drink - every facet of our lives - and benefit every
fiber of our being.
Sin is sin (Rom. 3:23). Transgression - the breaking - of these
practical principles is self-destructive (1 Jn. 3:4; Ezek.
18:31). God forbids any hanky-panky, plain and simple! He doesn't
target homosexuals or put them first in the line-up of
sex-offenders (1 Cor. 6:9).
We need to put everything in context, within perspective and
Biblical focus. Too often today, especially on the too many
talk-shows (Mat. 12:36), things are too easily distorted,
twisted, and confused. These vital issues are usually viewed from
the wrong angle, broached with dishonest motivations and
questioned by prejudiced people (Gen. 3:1). How they live for the
applause of their "broad-minded" crowd (Jn. 12:34)! Generally,
you can't reason with such a mob-mentality or argue with their
sick minds (Mat. 7:6). God condemns those "enlightened" hosts who
turn things upside down (Isa. 5:20; 2 Cor. 11:14). Regardless of
their ratings or rantings, they're not too popular with God.
We don't have to remain slaves to sin. Christ can set us free
(Jn. 8:36). Should the living dwell among the dead (Jn. 5:25)?
Why stay down and out, when you're able to improve your
situation, rise above your circumstances, and be within God's
grace (Col. 2:13)?
Once gay always gay? How about once an adulterer always an
adulterer? Better yet, once a sinner always a sinner (1 Cor.
6:11; 1 Jn. 1:9)? WHO says so? Only if you choose to become a
"hardened criminal." You can make progress toward perfection! You
can refuse to go with the flow, change the course of your
thought-patterns, and escape from the belly of the beast (Ephes.
2:1-6). You can stage a revolt and go free! You
don't have to die in "Egypt."
Once a sinner, NOW a saint! There isn't any sin too great, or
problem deep-rooted, or mind that's scarred, that Christ can't
reach or touch or heal (Ps. 139:7-12; Mat. 15:30). Who would dare
condemn whom God has forgiven (Rom. 8:1)? God sent Christ into
your world to save, not destroy; to forgive, not damn; to help,
not hurt (Lk. 9:56). Even Jesus' Hebrew name declares His good
intentions toward us (Mat. 1:21).
Pulls From the Past
Without a doubt, there'll be strong pulls from the past and
pressure to revert to old, familiar ways: testing our resolve,
trying our mettle, and cross-examining our conversion (Deut.
8:2-3). They're to be expected (1 Pet. 4:12), but should be put
in proper perspective (Heb. 12:11-13). The very fact that you're
now a part of the "Resistance Movement," and engage in bitter
conflicts (refusing to surrender), proves your patriotism and
displays your determination to win (Ga. 5:17). God respects and
will reward your efforts (Heb. 6:10; 11:6). They've been brought
to His attention repeatedly (Ps. 116:15). You're not left to fend
for yourself! You might feel like it, but you're not all alone.
We have a Great Helper, an Unseen Assistant, who can handle
anything that might befall us during this battle (Heb. 4:14-16).
When we're pardoned, WE'RE EMPOWERED to overcome our past (Jn.
1:12). God enables us to withstand the onslaught of sin, and
remain within the good graces of our Governor (Isa. 9:11; Jude
24). Although you may still feel "gay," your reorientation hasn't
taken full effect yet (Ephes. 4:23; Jas. 1:4), DON'T GET
DISCOURAGED! Be happy that you've made progress, and that you're
even trying to better yourself. That's a miracle in itself! Trust
in God (Philip. 4:13). He'll see you through thick and thin, and
He'll stay by your side "come hell or high water" (Isa. 43:1-2)! It's true that "We conquer by continuing." DON'T GIVE UP! Keep up the struggle: everything you believe in is worth fighting for! (Matt. 11:12).You can rest assured that you're very precious to God. He knows
you by name.
"Once gay always gay" is a damn LIE! It denies Christ's ability
to save and slanders His sacrifice as insufficient! We don't have
to believe that propaganda though it's repeated a thousand times.
It's nothing more than psychological warfare (2 Cor. 2:11). It's
jealously directed against those who've sobered up and have made
an about-face in life (1 Pet. 5:8).
Conversion - change - is possible, but it demands patience.
Purification is a process that takes time ( 1 Jn. 3:3; Isa.
48:10). It all begins in the mind. We don't have to remain
subject to sin's every whim and desire (Rom. 6:14). Slowly but
surely, the homosexual obsession will lose its hold over our
lives. God can rid us of its side-effects, break our hobbling
habits, and release us from the ball and chain of our past (Isa.
45:2).
Christ will gently assist and energize us as we carry on (Isa.
40:29). We're to unburden ourselves before the Father in
heartfelt prayer (Mat. 11:28-30; 1 Pet. 5:7), like Jesus did when
He was here (Heb. 5:7).
Everyone's offered this opportunity of a lifetime: to start over,
have a new lease on life, and to wipe the slate clean. It's our
option. It's your choice.
Chapter Four
OF VICE AND MEN
Why do we do the things we do? Who hasn't asked themselves that
question at one time or another? Must we remain creatures of
habit? Is there "No Way Out?" Even the apostle Paul wrestled with
this problem, but he came to the happy conclusion that we can
overcome all in Christ (Rom. 7:14-25; Philip. 4:13). But Christ
Himself said it wouldn't be easy, and Paul basically admitted
that we'd have to go through hell before Heaven would be
established on earth (Acts 14:22). Yet as Thomas Paine declared:
"The harder the conflict the more glorious the Triumph."
And indeed there is a war within, a dueling conflict of
interests, a dual nature that demands constant attention (1 Pet.
2:11; Ga. 5:17). True Christians are even compared to soldiers
that must learn how to effectively fight and become toughened in
the process (2 Tim. 2:3; 1 Tim. 6:12). We're commanded to kill
carnality, subdue sin, and force ourselves into line (Col. 3:5;
Mat. 11:12). Of course, it's only through the power and Spirit of
God that we're able to overcome, grow, and conquer all of those
things that would love to tear us down (Ps. 60:12; Ephes.
6:10-17).
What is one man's strength is another man's weakness, but we must
all struggle to attain God's Image through the process of
conversion (Philip. 3:12). We're to become spiritually stronger
by carrying our cross and bearing our burden; they're to make us
and not break us.
Although we're presently only too human, we're offered the
opportunity to increasingly partake of the divine nature and
holiness (2 Pet. 1:4), experiencing in advance the glory of God's
Kingdom (Heb. 6:5); all contingent upon our response to God's
lead, submission to His Will, and the exercising of His Spirit
(Rom. 8:14).
Considering how transcendent true spirituality can be, why do we
allow ourselves to lower our sights and settle for less (Rom.
8:6)? How damnable are such distractions that would disrupt our
clear concepts of Christ and His Kingdom! Satan attempts to
short-circuit God's Spirit, cause static on our wavelength to
Heaven, and overload our minds to jam God's message (Ephes. 2:2).
We're to keep life's purpose uppermost in mind, putting all
things in perspective, enjoying the light of this Vision (2
Tim.1:7; Ephes.1:17-19). Yet the god of this present world's
system has blinded his subjects to their glorious potential (2
Cor. 4:4), led them astray by tinsel temptations, and enslaved
them through deceitful sin.
Adrenalin and Ego
The Bible reveals that two of men's biggest problems are LUST and
PRIDE (1 Jn. 2:16). They go hand in hand, and are like a dog
chasing its tail: a vicious cycle. Why do we keep going out to
the bars? Because it's an addiction. When you're all dressed up,
and want to strut your stuff, where else is there to go? It's
adrenalin and ego. They're partners for life - or death. They
artificially energize us and bring us back for more.
Who doesn't like to cruise and be cruised? There's always that
challenge of the chase, that anticipation of the evening. But
what if the next time your catch includes some sexual disease?
Are you ready and willing to exchange the cool clothes and hot
look for a hospital robe? Those boots that are made for walkin'
for slippers? That well-groomed hair for baldness? Go from Mr.
Popular to poor pariah? It is a possibility. It is reality. But
then we don't like to think about such disturbing thoughts, and
besides, it always happens to someone else, "the other guy." At
least so far. Well?
Another notch on the bedpost might be another foot in the grave.
This is a serious subject and an uncomfortable one, but as far as
promiscuity goes - you've got to stop it, before it stops you!
We're told that the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is
eternal life (Rom. 6:23). Ultimately, the penalty for every sin
unrepented of is death (Rev. 21:8), but some sins exact their
penalty quicker than others. Is AIDS a plague sent from some
angry God? Could He be upset with our stubborn ways (Mk. 3:5)? Is
it possible God's simply taken away His protective shield (Isa.
5:5), and left us at the mercy of cause and effect (Jer. 2:19;
4:18)?
God reveals that same-sex practices are self-destructive and
contrary to what's natural (Rom. 1:26-28). He also explodes the
myth that it's harmless and declares both minds and bodies become
abused (Ps. 107:17). Does this stark fact justify "gay-bashing?"
NO! We need to pray for those entangled in sin's web.
Nothing's so hypocritical as a straight couple (living together
with children out of wedlock) getting interviewed as they watch
the spectacle of a "Gay Pride" parade. Shaking their heads, they
say: "We just think it's disgusting. Besides, the Bible says it
wrong." Since when did they ever care about what the Bible has to
say? It probably has a few things to say to them also! Everybody
needs to get their act together and straighten up (Isa. 40:3). We
could all use some "home-improvement" (1 Cor. 6:19-20). Whereas
there are many sins - and sin is simply breaking God's code of
conduct (1 Jn. 3:4) - this booklet's specifically dealing with
homosexuality, although the principles contained within these
pages pertain to all.
Offensive Stereotypes
What's so difficult for heterosexuals to comprehend is that being
gay is as normal for homosexuals as being straight is for them.
And that many homosexuals also can't understand the sexual
attraction of straights. Both "sexes" are a mystery to each
other!
Gays are quite capable of appreciating a woman's mind, beauty or
charm - but are generally repulsed at the thought of having sex
with one! Many women adore their unique relationships with
homosexuals because they know they're accepted for who they are
without any ulterior motives. It's refreshing to be free of
sexual harassment or pressure. Although there are other women who
consider gay men a tremendous turn on, and are titillated by the
challenge to be their first and "convert" them.
It's offensive to be thoughtlessly thrown in together, as if we
all shared the same sexual desires or fantasies, or to be
stereotyped as drag-queens or pinko sissies! Homosexuals are
individuals and as different from one another as heterosexuals
are. We have our "Marlboro Men" as well as a "Minnie Mouse" or
two, some who are promiscuous and others who remain monogamous or
celebrate celibacy.
And the idiotic idea that homosexuals will jump for anything that
happens to be male is an insult. Don't flatter yourself.
Homosexuals have their own tastes, preferences and standards (or
lack of them) like everybody else. Should that be so surprising?
Homosexuals shouldn't be equated with rapists. Rarely would they
force themselves upon anyone who wasn't a willing person or a
consenting adult. However, as in the "straight" world, there are
those ugly exceptions to the rule who don't know how to take no
for an answer or keep their hands to themselves.
This isn't an attempt to promote homosexuality (it doesn't need
any) or enlist hungry recruits. It's an honest effort to dispel
myths and help rid people of dangerous misconceptions. Only the
truth can liberate us from lies and deliver us from deception. A
new and improved understanding is essential for everybody's
growth.
As for those who might forget that homosexuals are human - whom
Christ also died for and seeks to save - they'd do well to
remember that immature name-calling falls into the same category
of those who could be held in contempt of court (Mat. 5:22).
Hate-words such as nigger, spic, kike or faggot aren't
representative of God's Kingdom. But then again, neither is
yelling bigot or such brand names as sexist, homophobe, and
racist (1 Jn. 2:9). Condemning all Christians because of the
words or actions of a few is foolish.
Sometimes we need to forcibly remind ourselves that everyone is
potentially in God's image. We must hate the sin, but never the
sinner. And we should hate the sin - not just because it upsets
up or disturbs us personally - but because it's harming the
sinner (whom we should love). This goes against the flow and
demands that we rise above ourselves and our petty prejudices,
but it's prayerfully possible (Mat. 5:45).
And again, there are degrees of homosexuality. Some are "gay all
the way" or bisexual (double trouble!), while others only
experiment with it and decide it's not for them. There are also
those who wish to God they were straight and could marry and have a
family (often due to unbearable pressure or religious
convictions).
Few homosexuals are mass murderers or child-molesters, contrary
to exaggerated fears and bizarre movies or twisted individuals.
Any "sex-offender" will be denied entrance into God's Kingdom
(Rev. 21:27). Perverts will find themselves prevented from
spoiling Paradise. It's not just because of their physical acts,
but because of their mind's spiritual miscarriage. It's their
attitude, not just their selfish actions, that abort their royal
birth.
Active homosexuals and practicing heterosexuals, must repent of
their sexual sins and become practicing - not just professing -
Christians! It's something that will have to be kept under
control daily, even though it can be frustrating and frightening
to forego such a personal part of our lives, but it's for a good
cause: God's Kingdom (Isa. 56:4-5).
Remember, as stated before, God forbids any premarital or
extramarital sex. He hasn't made an exception for homosexuals.
There's no preferential treatment. Even if God did allow
homosexuality - which He doesn't - that wouldn't excuse continued
careless sex, but would require of homosexuals the same as
heterosexuals: no illicit sex, a strictly monogamous
relationship, and a sure commitment. God doesn't have a
double-standard.
We have to overcome lust or it will overcome us. Without a doubt,
sex is one of the greatest physical sensations. No wonder it's so
popular - but it comes and it goes. Since we're here today and
gone tomorrow - is sex (or a relationship) really worth giving up eternal life for?
If we could only begin to grasp how transcendent, pure and
glorious our spiritual experiences are destined to be - the
rotting flesh can't compare! The divine delights are so far
superior, utterly indescribable to mortal man, that it's
mind-boggling! God is the joyous Fountain of Life with flowing
Rivers of endless Pleasures (Ps. 16:11; 36:8)!
The Fire Within
Everyone - gay or straight - has the "fire" within (1 Cor. 7:9).
Some burn more than others, but it's still there. God understands
proper sexual desire and simply commands that we develop His
character to control and channel it. He knows our human need to
love and be loved, to touch and feel, to give of ourselves
totally in a reciprocal relationship. However, God requires that we
find such fulfillment within the safe and secure boundaries of
marriage, lest we careen out of control with unwanted children,
abortion, devastating disease, scarred minds and abused bodies
(Heb. 13:4). But it can be traumatic if you're NOT straight and marriage isn't an option! It's heartbreaking and gut-wrenching, initially, to realize God might want you to remain single, without a significant other ( I Cor. 7:24; Matt. 11:6). Although just being straight doesn't guarantee you'll ever marry, there's always that hope. Everything must be kept in Biblical focus or you'll lose your mind and salvation! God PURPOSELY calls some who aren't attached (I Cor. 12:18). Why? It's easier for them to be wedded to God's Work and married to Christ's Mission (I Cor. 7:32,35; Matt. 19:12).
Therefore, if someone can see through the smokescreen of
exploited emotions and desires, and decides to love and obey
Christ through it all - rejecting sin's advances and turning down
its many propositions - God will highly honor and respect their
efforts. He promises to love and comfort them, and graciously
grant them an even greater strength and peace of mind (Jn.
14:15-16, 27).
Dare to be different. Don't just follow the crowd - especially
when they don't even know where they're going! The sooner you
recognize the seriousness of sin, and act accordingly, the better
(Ecc. 12:1). Youth is transient and one-night stands are vain.
Wake up and smell the coffee!
Sin must become unthinkable (Jas. 1:14-15)! We can't afford to
entertain any thoughts that would drag us both down and under,
sweeping us away again (Mat. 5:28). We shouldn't risk going past
the point of rescue. We should've learned our lesson by now and
feel enough is enough! Haven't we graduated from the school of
hard knocks? Therefore, we're sufficiently educated to reject the
trial and error approach (1 Pet. 4:3). We know which "school of
thought" is worthwhile and offers any sort of a future.
Understanding that we're living on borrowed time, that we've been
given a new lease on life, and that we had been on death row (and
yet received an unbelievable pardon from our Governor) - we must
let go of the past and its corrosive influence (Philip. 3:13).
We're to be dead to our old way of life and thinking (Ps. 146:4),
and accept the resurrection that is in Christ (Rom. 6).
We're no longer to imbibe of alcohol excessively, but instead be
embued with God's Holy Spirit (Ephes. 5:18). Our new moderation
is intended to magnify God's glory, revealing His influence in
our lives (Philip. 4:5). And we're not to be surprised when our
old friends and former acquaintances express shock or challenge
our change (1 Pet. 4:4). It doesn't compute with their old way of
thinking. They're relying on out-dated information and really
don't know the new you!
Knowing how grave and deceitful sin can be (Heb. 3:13), we're not
to offer it any occasion to oppress us (Ephes. 4:27), nor ever
attempt to compromise or participate in the charade of a
"peaceful coexistence" (Deut. 7:2). Therefore, aware of the
inherent dangers, we're to avoid those people, places or things
that would throw fuel on our fire (Prov. 1:10; 4:14-15; 2 Tim.
2:22). Don't set yourself up for a fall, or be fooled by selfish
flattery (Prov. 7:21), or seduced by lying eyes (Prov. 6:25). In
short, beware the "devil in blue jeans!"
God can break the grip and release us from whatever hold vice
might have on us (Isa. 45:2; Ps. 107:16). We don't have to remain
creatures of habit. We can become God's Sons and Daughters. There
is a Way out: God has provided us with a marvelous Door of
opportunity - but we must walk through it (Jn. 10:9). Instead of
suffering paralysis (like prisoners of the past), let's look
forward and go ahead, confident of our bright future (Mat. 13:43;
Philip. 1:6).
Chapter Five
A TIME TO HEAL
Are radical gay groups or militant organizations (like Queer
Nation and Act-Up) helping to heal the breaches or throw salt in
the wounds? Do they help homosexuals to be further reconciled or
alienated? Are they accomplishing their goals and airing their
grievances, or being contentious just for the sake of being
contentious? Are they actually doing more harm than good?
Defeating their avowed purpose or attaining their aims?
Isn't it immature to blame the government for not making us feel
better? Is it always "others" fault that we haven't discovered a
cure for AIDS yet? Don't we have the ways and means to do
something about it ourselves? How much does it cost to abstain or
practice "safe-sex?" It's in our power to save lives. Every
person who's had sex ought to get tested to prevent passing AIDS
on and to enable yourself to start treatment immediately if
you've been infected. To do otherwise isn't only selfish, it's
evil.
High-risk groups ought to stop and think about what they're
doing. It's not so much a lack of education, but of character.
Irresponsible behavior is the cause for so many of the effects we
see or suffer daily. Don't allow sin to emaciate you or separate
you from your loved ones (Prov. 5:11; Ps. 38:11). Nobody gets a
second chance.
Damaging stereotypes must go. Calloused misrepresentation is an
injustice. Hollywood will be held responsible for its
productions. But then again, in all fairness, aren't the
stereotypes reinforced with every passing "Gay Pride" parade?
Isn't much of the damage self-inflicted? And all of the negative
publicity produced, in large part, by members of the homosexual
community (Isa. 3:9)?
A Time and a Place
Are you an exhibitionist? Do you always insist on exposing your
sexual preference whether it's appropriate or not? Why force the
issue? We don't have to hide, but neither should we always lay
everything out in the open (Prov. 13:16). It's not good to glory
in our gory days or push our preference (Ephes. 5:12).
And instead of having a gutter mouth, let's try and be gracious
for once (Ephes. 4:29). Develop discretion. Tact, wisdom and
diplomacy are wonderful attributes of a true ambassador (2 Cor.
5:20). There is a time and a place for everything, but even then
we should ensure we're speaking the truth in love; facts with
feelings, considering the sensitivities of others (Prov. 29:11;
Ephes. 4:15; 1 Cor. 10:32).
If someone's not ready yet to hear you out, or capable of
appreciating what you're saying - why make it more difficult for
them (Jn. 16:12)? Just getting something off your chest isn't
right if it's going to adversely affect others. We are to help
bear one another's burdens, but ultimately we're on our own (Ga.
6:2, 5).
I know there are those who would object to my use of the term
"gay" throughout this booklet. May they try and understand that
this work's been written to address the issue of homosexuality,
and therefore, "becoming all things to all men," I've chosen to
speak in their language. I realize the adjective's been unjustly
robbed of its former innocence, and I know that it's not the word
God would use to describe homosexuals. God calls the practice an
abomination, the lifestyle loathsome, and the desires detestable
(Lev. 18:22; Rom. 1:24, 26).
That's some pretty strong medicine, but we'd better take it (Rev.
3:19). If someone trys to sell you on some other idea (Ga. 1:8),
don't buy it! Don't be fooled by smooth-talking salesmen or
swallow their snake-oil (Ephes. 5:6; Rom. 16:18)!
Before you get all riled up, notice that the same "harsh" God
considers incest as wicked, bestiality as confusion, and baptized
paganism as abominable (Lev. 18:17, 23; Deut. 12:30-31). Two
wrongs don't make a right, but I wanted to show we've all fallen
short of the mark and have failed the test (Rom. 3:23). There
isn't any teacher's pet! Jesus didn't just die for straight
people, He bled to death for homosexuals as well. We've all
nailed Him to the cross and we all need Him as our Savior.
A Sinful Savior?
Did Jesus engage in sexual activities? Have an active love life?
What does the Bible actually say? Not only have those openly
critical of Christ cast aspersions, but others have leveled
serious charges claiming Him as one of their own.
What about Mary Magdalene? Did He have a relationship with her?
Or the apostle John - were they lovers? Could He have been a
bisexual? Or was it just a close friendship? Did Jesus simply
exemplify male-bonding in its purest form, like King David did
with his best friend, Jonathan?
Jesus reply to His accusers: "I have kept my Father's
commandments" (Jn. 15:10). Those commandments include
instructions against all immorality. If Jesus broke even one link
of this gold chain, He wouldn't have only tarnished His good
reputation, He would have disqualified Himself as our sinless
Savior (1 Jn. 3:5). But Jesus is our pure Passover Lamb (not
Easter rabbit!), without any defect of character; accepted,
approved, and received by Heaven.
Christ commands everyone, everywhere, to confess and forsake
their sins (Acts 17:30; 1 Jn. 1:9). We're to leave our sinful
pasts behind and get out of compromising situations fast (1 Cor.
6:18). Don't be fooled: what you do will come back to you (Ga.
6:7)!
We're not free to flagrantly flout God's law (Jer. 7:8-10). We
haven't been delivered to disobey, despite appeals for "liberty"
(2 Pet. 2:19; Rom. 6:1-6). When God set our forefathers free from
Egypt, it wasn't for the sake of freedom alone! We weren't left
to just go our own way or do our own thing. No longer the slaves
of men, we were to become the servants of God. We were expected
to follow His clear-cut directions to make it to another land. A
Land of Promise. A Sanctuary where we would be free to do as He
instructed. God declared war on Egypt and took a slave-people to
make them into His Servant-Nation!
Don't believe the popular fairy-tales of serpentine ministers (2
Tim. 4:3-4)! They're so confused they'd even accept brazen
sinners and assure them everything's "kosher" (Jer. 23:14, 17),
when it's clearly not. They're professing Christians, but their
lewd lives contradict their claims (Titus 1:16; 1 Jn. 2:4). Such
pornographic priests had better heed God's Word and listen to His
Law (Isa. 1:10). They're warned to stop justifying themselves and
abusing God's grace (Jude 4).
Previous Lives & Experiences
God calls people from all walks of life and performs a miracle in
their minds: they're offered a fresh perspective, given a new
outlook, and enabled to try a different approach (Philip. 2:5).
Their former "records" aren't held against them and they're
started out with a new attitude and identity (2 Cor. 5:17).
God lists a litany of former lifestyles His people once
practiced, and ends by emphasizing: "And such were some of
you..." (2 Cor. 6:9-11). He acknowledges, thereby, they've sinced
cleaned up their act and stand apart from the rest. All made
possible by their Advocate who's expunged their past, gives them
room to grow, a chance to change, and every encouragement to lead
new lives.
But those who've refused to change, don't even attempt to get up
and get over it, and have given up trying - are nothing more than
the living dead facing a bleak future (Rev. 21:8; Heb. 10:27).
God doesn't accept cop outs or drop outs (Lk. 14:18), but expects
us to keep plugging away and stay in the race (1 Cor. 9:24;
Philip. 3:14). We're to do whatever's necessary to hang on to God
and let go of sin, invigorated by the cheering examples of those
who've already crossed the finishing line (Heb. 11; 12:1).
Recovering homosexuals haven't denied who and what they are;
they've owned up to it and now seek atonement. They've honestly
admitted to themselves their problem, have sought help, and are
struggling to overcome and improve. They've accepted Christ's
command and challenge to "...go and sin no more" (Jn. 8:11).
They're not denying that they're horny, human, and homosexual.
They haven't gone back into the "closet" - but they have gone
back, time and again, into the "prayer closet" to find the
necessary strength to withstand temptation and continue their
conversion (Acts 13:43).
Those flying accusations are nothing more than shrapnel from that
lying snake and murderer of mankind (Rev. 12:10). And besides,
everybody must "come out" from under Satan's influence, and avoid
him like the plague (Rev. 18:4; 2 Cor. 6:17)!
Sodom and Gomorrha
There is HOPE for homosexuals! Jesus even blasted certain cities
of His day as worse than Sodom and Gomorrha, and indicated they
would've repented given half a chance. He did state their "day in
court" would be better than those who had seen the Light and yet
chose to remain in religious darkness (Mat. 10:15; 11:2-24). God
condemns their spiritual preference as inexcusable. Their lust
for man-made traditions was greater than their love for God's
truth.
Are homosexuals alone branded as Sodomites? Was that Sodom and
Gomorrha's only claim to fame? Actually their sins ranged from
downright snobbery to a lack of compassion; full bank accounts
but empty lives. Obviously there was a great divide between the
rich and the poor, but they all shared sin in common (Ezek. 16:
49-50).
Their "anything goes" attitude and "do your own thing"
atmosphere, reveals how low you can go. Their descent into
depravity was undoubtedly hailed as a new era of "understanding,"
and their tolerance level for perversion praised as being
"open-minded." So open-minded their brains fell out!
Yet their DESTRUCTION is intended to dramatize the end result of
living the wrong way. That warning message isn't only directed
towards homosexuals (2 Pet. 2:6; Jude 7). God even refers to
today's RELIGIOUS ESTABLISHMENT as "Sodom and Egypt..." - too
PROUD AND STUBBORN to change (Rev. 11:8)! We're reminded that
this affliction affects both young and old, high and low, rich
and poor (Ge. 19:4, 11). Sin doesn't discriminate. Iniquity
accepts all.
Regardless of our sexual orientation, we're to get as far away as
possible from our old haunts and tired ways. We shouldn't look
back upon those days (daze) with longing. Don't linger in the
past or you'll forfeit your future (Gen. 19:15-17). God's
prepared something far better for us: a sparkling City that's
"out of this world," a wonderfully warm and loving Home, and a
Country that really does care (Rev. 21:2).
Jesus has promised to personally insure our part and parcel in
God's Kingdom (Jn. 14:1-2). He should be interested: He staked
His life on us! Jesus became human so we could become divine
(Heb. 2:10)! We're assured that even as we're presently
human-beings, we're capable of becoming God-Beings (Jn. 3:3-7;
Ps. 82:6). These are bold claims and astonishing statements, but
it's past time that you've been told the plain truth and given a
fair chance to consider it (Lk. 4:32; Isa. 52:15; Jn. 16:29).
A Change For the Better
Only by a resurrection can our conversion be made complete; our
miraculous transformation from matter to spirit, from mortal to
immortal, from human to divine (1 Cor. 15:49-53). Could it be any
other way? As members of the Royal Family of God it's only
befitting that we should be glorified.
The gospel - THE GOOD NEWS - of the Kingdom of God is a true rags
to riches, dust to divinity story (Ps. 113:7-8)! Pardon the
analogy, but would Cinderella have gone to her ball
inappropriately dressed? Neither shall we be presented to Christ
in any other manner: only the best will do (Rev. 19:8).
As prominent Priest-Kings, reigning with but under Christ (Rev.
5:10; Dan. 7:27), our clothing and appearance must be immaculate
(Mat. 17:2; 1 Jn. 3:2). Understand, therefore, that even as we'll
reside in splendor and rule in glory (Mat. 19:28; Rev. 3:21), so
too must our very bodies become brilliant (Philip. 3:21); the
last Trump heralds our change of clothing and composition (1 Cor.
15:52; 2 Cor. 5:1-5; Ps. 17:15). The resurrection invests us with
this power and affords us this hope (Rev. 2:26; Acts 26:6-8)!
If we're ever going to make it, we've got to keep this VISION of
God's Kingdom-Family clear to us, careful not to let it dim or
lose its luster (Prov. 29:18). It must become our driving force
and motivation (Mat. 6:33).
Vision inspires motivation which encourages discipline. Some
restrain themselves - not because of character, but fear of the
consequences. That's a beginning, but God hopes we pass that
starting point (Prov. 1:7). As we grow more spiritually mature,
love is to gradually replace fear as our reason for obeying God
(1 Jn. 4:18).
Mindful of all that God's done for us, we're to develop an
attitude of gratitude that expresses itself in loving obedience
(Lk. 7:47). This all-important love strengthens our resolve to do
the right thing, to grace the Gospel, and compliment the Kingdom
(1 Thes. 2:12; Titus 2:10). Even this loving desire to fulfill
God's Will is his gift (Rom. 2:4; 5:5). God initiates our
relationship with Him, but we must continue it (Jn. 6:44; 15:14).
After our favorable response, God then supplies the strength of
character, the courage of conviction, and an extraordinary
will-power to secure our friendship as a lasting one (Philip.
2:13; 2 Tim. 1:7).
Everyone Has Problems
The Christian life isn't exempt from the trials and tribulations
that everyone experiences. the difference is that God promises to
pull us through. If He doesn't deliver us from some circumstance
or situation, He will help us to hold up. Remember: diamonds are
nothing more than coal that's been put under a lot of pressure!
God will never forget or forsake us, and He'll never allow
anything to come between us (Rom. 8:35-39). He promises to impart
sufficient grace to enable us to survive whatever might come our
way (2 Cor. 12:9; 1 Cor. 10:13). All of these problems can help
produce God's character in us and contribute considerably to our
cause (1 Pet. 1:7).
When the weight of worldly cares start to get you down, and seems
too overwhelming, don't get discouraged! Be encouraged to go to
God for help. That's how recognizing your own weaknesses can
become your strength. Once we accept that sometimes we'll have to
go through "hell" before Heaven is established on earth, we'll be
better prepared for the "unexpected" by knowing that there is a
method to this madness and a purpose for this pain (2 Cor. 4:17).
Such an understanding helps us to put everything into perspective
and enjoy a clearer focus, reassured that there is a happy ending
to it all (Rom. 18:28; Ecc. 7:8). We don't always know what's
going on or why God does (or doesn't do) this or that, but our
faith comforts us that "Father knows best" and is in control of
events that might appear out-of-control (Jn. 13:7; Mat. 27:53);
therefore, refuse to get upset with God's way of handling things
or bother second-guessing Him (Mat.11:6).
One of the most difficult things to accept is God's apparent
inaction. Especially when you're convinced of His ability to do
something. We've just got to calm down and rest in the fact that
He's obviously working out something that we can't see now, but
will understand later.
Why didn't He set John the Baptist free? Wouldn't that have
glorified God, revealing His power to over-rule the Romans?
Instead He left him to "rot" in jail and later lose his head. Why
didn't He save Lazarus from his terminal illness? Or come down
off the cross? Faith and patience....
Make Up Your Mind
All these things are wonderful opportunities to confirm or deny
our commitment to Christ. It's a chance to defy temptation and
stand up for what's right - despite peer pressure (Mat.
10:32-33). We can make things easier or more difficult for
ourselves. Either you're totally convinced God's way is right and
worth living, or you're not sure and continually ride the fence
and risk rupture; tormenting yourself and sending out conflicting
signals and confusing signs (Mat. 6:24; 7:16). When you're at the
crossroads it's either this way or that. You can't have it both
ways (Rev. 3:15). You should've made up your mind at baptism.
Will you honor your decision or break your vows?
For those who've chosen to follow the Noble Path, they can't
afford to play with fire, flirt with death, or risk living on the
edge (Jude 23; Zech. 3:2). They've got to learn to quickly say no
to sin. "He who hesitates is lost." Then they must become "stuck
in their ways." They know that it's now or never, do or die, and
that nothing can compare to what God has in store for them (Heb.
11:25-26; Mat. 13:46).
God's fire will either purify or destroy you. The choice is
yours. Will you become a great success or end up a miserable
failure (Mal. 3:2)? You might as well lay your lust in the dust,
because everything in this world's about to end and a new world
begin; therefore, God expects us to take note and act accordingly
(1 Jn. 2:17; 2 Pet. 3:11). Just as God's got something in store
for His saints, He's also reserved something for sinners (2 Pet.
3:7). Don't worry, everybody will get what's coming to them (Rev.
22:12).
Using Available Resources
Having a clear vision of God's Kingdom, and a sober view of
things to come, we can overcome every obstacle in Christ (Jn.
16:33). But how can we keep our head up when the whole world's
falling down around us (Lk. 21:28)? By realizing that we're that
much closer to the time when God will pick up the pieces and
start over (Jn. 6:12; Acts 1:6). But how can we keep from "losing
it" while we wait (Rev. 3:11)? By getting "baptized!"
We're to be immersed in the Word and saturated by God's Spirit
(Lk. 3:16). That's the only way to be "in Christ." That's an
atomic statement. It's not meant to be just an empty spiritual
cliche. It's packed with POWER and ENERGY!
Our growth and development depends upon how often (and to what
degree) we'll take advantage of our available resources (Mat.
13:23). Only we can hold ourselves down or back (1 Thes. 5:19).
We're authorized to exercise "veto power" over any illicit
thought or action. We're to wield God's Spirit (Rom. 8:13), and
learn to handle our Light-Saber like an expert (Heb. 4:12; 2 Tim.
2:15). We're under orders to search and destroy (2 Cor. 13:5; Ga.
5:24), and follow our Leader wherever He might go (Rom. 8:14; 1
Pet. 2:21).
Jesus flesh and blood are our rations (Jn. 6:47-63). God's Word
can energize us and His Spirit sustain us - but it must become
our daily bread. Are we utilizing what we've been given,
investing our assets wisely, or are we just wasting our "time and
money" (Isa. 55:2)? You've got to use it or you'll lose it (Lk.
19:11-27)!
We'll really need this celestial assistance to "walk on the
waters," and not let our heart sink within us, if and whenever we
hear rude remarks or callous comments by Christians - people we'd
hope would understand our predicament and appreciate our efforts
(Ps. 41:9).
God expects us to go out of our way, to forgive and forget, when
we get burnt (Col. 3:13). He doesn't want us to fall into the
trap of bickering back and forth (1 Pet. 3:9). We're to share
scripture, not exchange cutting remarks (1 Cor. 14:26; Ps.
50:20)! As Satan seeks to divide and conquer, may he find unity
in diversity instead (1 Cor.12:12). Since we have such a high
calling, let's not act beneath ourselves.
Growing Pains
Some Christians don't know how to deal with homosexuality. It's
all new and frightening to them. That's understandable. But now
they're under obligation to learn how to handle themselves when
confronted with this issue. We're to be patient with them and
pray that they'll be tolerant of us. We're not to force-feed them
with "everything you never wanted to know about homosexuality!"
They might get sick. Everybody grows at their own pace. Some
"growing-pains" are to be expected along the way. We should
accept and respect these facts of life and avoid sibling rivalry.
Meanwhile we can attempt to make the best of a bad situation
(Rom. 12:18). Don't be judgmental, but be careful. Don't trip
someone up or help them fall over their mental block (Rom.
14:13). This is the way of love: don't hold a grudge!
What about AIDS victims? Are they victims or did they knowingly
endanger themselves? Should we befriend these social outcasts or
leave them to lay in the bed they've made? What about compassion?
Am I my brother's keeper? Can't I cry for the suffering sin
causes (Jer. 9:1)? Don't these "lepers" need love? They're not
necessarily any worse than others (Lk. 13:1-5). Time and chance
struck them down (Ecc. 9:11). They need our tender-loving prayers
and care, not our cold-hearted stares. Besides, if everybody got
sick who's sinned, we'd all be in intensive care! "Except for the
grace of God, there go I" had better become our attitude. God
showed His love toward us while we were yet sinners (Rom. 5:8).
Masturbation: is it right or wrong? It's the lesser of two evils,
but it's still evil. Didn't Jesus say that if you've lusted after
someone you've already had "sex" with them? Sex is mental, not
just physical. Isn't masturbation usually accompanied by explicit
fantasies? What's the difference between them and dirty movies or
smut magazines? Don't they all throw fuel on the fire? Doesn't it
entice you to fulfill them? Doesn't it weaken your will,
surrender your resolve, and screw-up your spiritual day? Isn't
lust just like a drug: intoxicating and addictive? There's no
"time-out" for a Christian. Ask God for help in this area and
know you'll receive it. Learn to resist sin, not God.
Same Person, Different Perception
Homosexuality is here whether we like it or not. I've been all
around the world and have see that it's everywhere. We can't just
wish it away because it won't go. Pretending it doesn't exist
isn't fooling anyone but yourself. We have to face up to the
facts, regardless of how uncomfortable they might make us feel.
As stated in the "Family Network" section of Better Homes and
Gardens (when they published my letter/Nov. '92 issue): Perhaps
you're the parent or friend of a lesbian or gay. Don't faint if
you have; just remember that nothing has changed about that
person except your perception of him or her. Treat them according
to their personality, not their sexuality.
Maybe you'd deny that it could ever occur in your family or
intrude into your circle of friends. Don't faint if it does. It's
not the end of the world. The sun will still rise and life will
go on. Maybe you're unsure of your own sexuality. This much is
sure: everything that you've loved or enjoyed about their
friendship or company remains the same. Don't get upset if they
hadn't told you. Such anger would only warrant their fears of
being "found-out." Maybe they didn't want to risk losing your
friendship. Obviously it means a lot to them.
Express your disapproval of their practice, if you must. But
reject it - not them. Is that asking too much? Life's too short
to allow misunderstandings to come between us. We're encouraged
to be reasonable; not to engage in emotional debates or heated
arguments (Isa. 1:18). Let's avoid such ringside distractions.
Remain cool, calm and collect (2 Tim. 2:23-25). Build bridges,
not walls. Make your point and drop it.
One Big Happy Family
So there, now you have it. What the Bible really says about
homosexuality. I guess I've done something right since I get
complaints from both sides: the Christian and gay communities. It
just goes to show you can't please everybody! Some say I'm too
harsh; others say I'm too lenient. May everybody at least glean
something. Others are initially discouraged, but then become
encouraged to make necesary changes in their lives (2 Chron.
7:8-11).
A few might even sniff, "I told you so." If so, they've missed
the point. Those prejudiced preachers might deliver the same
basic message, but their style and tone of voice isn't like the
Father's (Jn. 10:1-5). This little booklet's a "love-letter," not
hate-mail! Not everyone who speaks the truth has the right
attitude or motivation. "A truth that's told with bad intent
beats all the lies you can invent." We're to help gather, not
scatter; to encourage people to come to Christ, not dig in their
heels; to make it easier, not more difficult to repent (Acts
16:16-18; Philip. 1:15-18).
"Only he deserves his life and freedom who conquer them anew
every day" (Goethe). May we grow ever stronger and more deeply
appreciate our deliverance, making sure we never take it for
granted (Deut. 5:15). Caution can't be stressed enough. We've got
to be so careful not to fall back into our old rut, going nowhere
(Ga. 5:1). We can't afford a relapse into sin that would only put
us into a tail-spin (Jn. 5:14). We must be recovering
homosexuals, getting better and gaining strength (2 Tim. 2:26).
It's a daily struggle.
If Christ gave it all, His everything for this relationship,
can't we at least sacrifice a little? Is sex really so important
or worth dying for? I know it feels good, but it won't feel too
good in the Lake of Fire! May your love for God become greater
than your lust for men (Isa. 56:4-5).
The Jewish proverb that "all beginnings are hard" is true. But
that old saying doesn't just state a fact, it offers us the hope
that things will get better with time. They do. We just have to
hang in there. Climb Jacob's Ladder one rung at a time. Don't
give up on yourself when God hasn't! I know from personal
experience how difficult it can be, but I also know it's well
worth it. I wouldn't have given up John, my ex-lover, for God if
I didn't believe in what I've written! I went through hell, at
first, really wondering if there is an afterlife, a resurrection,
if Jesus is the Christ, if homosexuality is incompatible with the
scriptures; what if I was all wrong, how would I ever find such
another lover, etc.? But I have survived - and grown stronger. I
don't take my beliefs for granted, I know they're true!
Old habits and ways of thinking can be replaced. New habits and
ways of doing things can become ingrained. The divine nature can
begin to replace our human nature, because God can and does heal
minds and bodies! He's familiar with broken hearts and unhappy
lives, and can mend them (Mat. 11:28). We can be made whole in
Christ. He wants us all to become "One Big Happy Family" - the
